To love yourself is to accept your flaws and all! It took me a number of years to realize how to love myself the way I deserved to be loved. I mean it took me going through many relationships where I would absolutely loose myself. Changing into anyone else just to appease the man in my life. And at the end of the day nothing that did not aligned with my sense of happiness. Ultimately the issue was I did not love myself. I was not comfortable with myself and my accomplishments, my goofy and my uniqueness.
I had to find my wave, my comfort with my true authentic self. I began with the question of "Why do I want to start loving myself?" I know it seems trivial but it's real! You have to answer the question of why do you want to break the cycle. What is it that is stopping you from loving yourself unconditionally?
I came up with two answers:
1. I wanted to enhance my perception of my self worth/self esteem. I was tired...I mean tired of looking in the mirror and saying negative statements to myself. I would constantly focus on what I was lacking instead of what I actually had.
2. I wanted to be comfortable enough to be myself in a crowd of people without feeling like I was out of place. I didn't feel l was good enough or interesting enough to be in spaces where I was invited to be.
After realizing the answers to the "Why?" question, I used it as my motivation to work toward loving my self. The hardest part of answering the question is being real with yourself and be willing to handle the emotion that comes with actualizing your answer.
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