Throughout my journey to gain my own acceptance and move past my insecurities there were a couple of things that stuck with me. I have included 8 of the best ways I use often to love myself better. My advice is to take what you feel will work for you!
1. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses
Your strengths and your weaknesses are what makes you unique. They are your gold! In life you must be able to leverage your strengths with your weaknesses in order to gain a sense of comfort zone. Once you know your weaknesses you realize what makes your unique. My mantra is, "Imperfect is Perfect."
2. If you don't accept you then who will
So everyone is looking for people to accept them but have you ever really accepted yourself. Getting other people to like you means nothing if you don't like your self. It does you no good to be "The Warden." Accept yourself first and then you don't have to worry about other people liking you. And the ultimate secret is other people will love you anyway! 3. Examine your social circle
The friends that you have are the measure of your mentality. Your friends are like banks. Whatever you put in your should get back with interest. Your friends should be able to enhance your quality of life. Additionally they are able to help in times of crisis.
4. Opportunity in failure
Your don't go through any situation for no reason. Think about what you have learned from a failure or something that you were not able to complete. You have the opportunity to turn your failure into your next success.
5. Therapy Has Perks
When was the last time you asked your friend for advice and they couldn't understand the complexity of your situation. In therapy you have someone who is able to connect your past behaviors and reaction to your current crisis situation. Additionally you are able to obtain strategies and techniques to deal with future situations.
6. Meditate
Until I began meditating, I would dismiss this suggestion. But meditation helps you organize your thoughts. I also found that it helps with processing emotions. Being alone with your feelings and thoughts helps you to become more comfortable with yourself which is the optimal goal of loving yourself.
7. Stop comparing yourself to others
I cannot emphasize this point enough! Everyone is not a clean as you think they are. You may obsess about someone having designer bags and shoes, expendable money or a large home, but you don't know the cost of their perceived success. Loving yourself is counts more that material wealth.
8. Outside opinion are foundations
Although they can be a pain in the behind, outside opinions should be used as motivations to grow. When someone gives me their opinion I listen and then decide to stand on it and use it as fuel or through it away because it does not serve any purpose. Other peoples opinions are just that "other peoples opinions." They should not have any bearing on how you view and love yourself.
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