So I was sitting down at a casual cookout observing everyone in the room. I zeroed in on a couple of women dressed to 9's with flawless makeup. I was impressed with their efforts in looking the best to attract the attention of everyone. I began to examine what I was wearing on this night. It was a simple outfit of blue ripped jeans and a white fitted t-shirt with designer sneakers and I was wearing makeup (well what was left over after the festival I attended earlier). I then thought "If I came to the event straight from home would I be dressed any different" After a couple of minutes of contemplation, I came up with a strong NO!
So often us women get caught up in popular media and the Bad Bi*** image that you try to compare yourself to women who are just simply not the same caliber as you. Some of the women who you compare yourself to just wanted to be the one night stand or who were just craving any attention even if it was the wrong attention. I know this because I was the person out with the tightest weave, best clothes, and fly shoes just to go home with hurt feet, alone and empty. After a long and need conversation with a male friend, I learned 2 things that have shaped me.
1. Confidence if KEY.
Anyone can wear clothes and put on makeup and look like a Top Model but not everyone has the confidence of that Top Model when it all comes off. In my experience, men love a woman who is genuinely confident. It is all about being comfortable in your skin and with your experience.
2. Chemistry Counts.
Yes, he may have a large bank account, pearly white teeth, and designer clothing but if I cannot have a solid conversation with a man about life, politics and other educational topics I absolutely cannot deal with him on any other level. It would be a waste of time to force chemistry with someone I clearly would not be interested. Chemistry is very important with any relationship if it is to last.
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